Changing Your Mindset To Achieve Your Goals
While negative people are almost a certainty as you start achieving your goals, your biggest obstacle is actually going to be yourself.
We are our own worst enemy and for some reason, whenever we start to become successful, some primal defense mechanism kicks in and our mind starts telling us all these crazy things – which we usually believe because, hey, we wouldn’t lie to ourselves would we?
The truth is, we lie to ourselves about just about everything and the path to success is no exception. Successful people are the ones who have tricked their minds into being supportive rather than critical and although it takes some practice, you really can change your mindset so that you aren’t standing in your own way.
Here are some ways that you can make sure you have the right attitude as you chase down success.
- Believe You Deserve Success: One of the things that we do all the time as human beings is to convince ourselves that we don’t deserve to be happy. Maybe it comes from feelings of guilt or perhaps just a lack of conviction that we’re worthy of being happy and achieving our goals. Whatever the reason, if your mind is telling you that you don’t really deserve the kind of success you’re hoping for – it is a liar. Believe that you deserve it. We all deserve it, but few people are willing to do what it takes to get it.
- Have Confidence in Yourself: You probably have heard the expression “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t…you’re right.” Confidence is a powerful thing and when you have it you are almost unstoppable but when you lack it, it can be hard to accomplish anything. You truly can achieve your goals. You have the brains, the energy, the attitude and the ability. You have every tool that you need to fulfill every single one of your desires. You just need to believe it.
- Don’t Think in Extremes: Thinking in extremes – both positively and negatively – can be one of your biggest obstacles. Fiction writers are particularly guilty of this habit and they can serve as the perfect example of why this is so destructive. Often, when a fiction writer finished writing a novel or a story, they hold it in their hands, reading every sentence with rose-colored glasses, thinking that they have just written the most amazing piece of prose that the world has ever seen. In fact, they are often so seduced by this attitude that they send off (or self-publish) their work without any editing whatsoever, and end up looking foolish because they missed glaring grammatical errors, plot holes or a myriad of other problems, large and small. However, when you flip the coin to the other side, and they read something that they have put aside for a few weeks, they see all of the problems and begin to sink lower in their chair, feeling embarrassed that they wrote such horrible drivel and wanting nothing more than to burn the manuscript and never let anyone see it – ever. Of course, neither of these extremes is true, but it is hard to be objective about something when you’re standing within kissing distance of something. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking in extremes about your success or failures.
- Don’t Overgeneralize: Sometimes we act like teenage drama queens when something bad happens. We say things like “Oh, I’ll never be able to achieve this goal. This is the worst mistake ever. I must be the worst person to ever try to be successful at this. I suck at this more than anyone else. ” Setbacks are going to happen and sometimes you are going to fail. It’s not the end of the world and you’re probably doing better than a lot of people trying to be successful. Don’t overgeneralize, just try to look at things objectively and most importantly, keep going.
- Don’t Underestimate Your Success: When you reach one of your daily, weekly, monthly or yearly goals, don’t minimize it. This is a big deal. Every single time you reach a goal – even if it’s nothing more than your daily progress update – you are doing a great thing. Keep going, keep meeting those goals because before you know it, you’ll be achieving your every desire.
- Stop Believing Your Internal Tale-Teller: We all have a terrible habit of making up things and believing them –or convincing ourselves that they are true until we do – and that is a sure way to lose your motivation. For example, suppose you are writing a book. Before you have even finished the first chapter, you might have convinced yourself that no publisher is ever going to read your book, and even if they do, no one will publish it, and even if it gets published, you’ll probably end up with a terrible cover and no one will read it, and you’ll get horrible reviews and…well…you get the idea. It’s okay to think about what might happen in the future, but you have no idea what it holds, so don’t convince yourself that you’re a clairvoyant. You aren’t.
- Stop Comparing Yourself to Perfection: You aren’t perfect. You’re never going to be perfect. No one on this Earth is perfect and if you compare yourself to that standard you are going to find yourself the loser every time. Just accept that you are going to fail some of the time and get back on the horse and try again. It’s perfectly okay to strive for perfection as long as you understand that you’ll never achieve it. Just do your best.
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